The psychologist on an important problem of modern couples.
The convenience of applications for acquaintances and a huge number of people which you can meet forever changed a game. Now you can discuss the concerning aspects in advance, look at a photo of each other and agree about the appointment purpose. Despite the pluses, such programs have minuses, and there is a lot of them. One of such shortcomings – a possibility of search of other partners at stay in the current relationship, it is so simple to open the application which does not oblige to anything. The psychologist Sammy Goldgerber told what to do if your man continues to use kinky websites to chat with girls online.
Find out the reasons
When you for the first time find the partner in the application for acquaintances, whether it be through the girlfriend who found it, or through its own failure when it accidentally brushed away the page in phone, and on the screen, there was an opened window of livesex in a web browser and he was chatting with a girl from one of these x-rated websites, it is important to keep impartiality and not to hurry with conclusions. Actually, there can be several reasons for which it is registered there. Probably, it just did not delete this application from phone because to it all the same. It belongs to the category of “a digital household”. Not all precisely know how forever to remove the questionnaire of acquaintances. There is a set of examples of people who are happy in marriage and do not know that their profile still is in the application. If the partner declared to you it, then can quite be that he does not deceive you.
Men sometimes just watch profiles without intention to become interested. Of course, such behavior can be a bad omen, when it comes to constant health of your relationship. This occupation means that it calls into question your relationship or asks a question someone else can apply for your role. It is a form of emotional deception, but not doomsday. If this is so, came time to tell that it is pleasant to your partner in your relationship, and to discuss areas which can be improved.
Further actions have to be rational
If your partner actively selects, stirs and meets others behind your back, it can be considered deception if you initially did not agree to an open relationship. After all, there is only one way to define with what of these scenarios you deal: to talk to it about it.
As soon as you make a deep breath and will feel that are ready to talk to the partner, it is worth thinking of what you want to reach by means of a conversation that you could act consciously. Solve what you want. To feel heard? That he recognized it and you would not go crazy? Do you want to leave? Before bringing any charges, collect proofs. Here screenshots or his open profile in the application for acquaintances work.
If you agreed to enter a healthy relationship and both removed the profiles, I recommend to you to tell the following: “My friend [insert a name] glanced over cam sites, and somehow she highlighted your questionnaire”. Show to the partner a screenshot and tie a mouth because it is time to listen to an explanation. It is important to give to the partner enough space for the answer. Pay attention to the intuition. You learn whether he because your body will tell you about it lies if you together rather long time. Your task in this conversation is to get to the bottom of the truth, and is what you learn in yourself. Finally, you and your partner will decide, what will be farther. Perhaps, he will log in, will remove the profile once and for all, and you will be able to continue to live as earlier. On the other hand, you can go in the different ways. The main thing is to trust the intuition and to do that it seems to you correct.
If you find out that your partner has the second life in the application for acquaintances, know that you are not lonely. Creation or repeated activation of a profile for acquaintances takes several minutes, and there it is waited by millions of women, but definitely not you.